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By: Wendy Morris

Trust is a big thing.

I think sometimes people believe trust is only broken through major betrayals, huge lies, or devastating situations. But honestly, trust usually starts breaking long before that. It breaks in the little things first. The inconsistencies. The half-truths. The things that “don’t add up.” The moments where your spirit starts noticing something your heart is trying to ignore.

Because if trust can be broken in small ways, what is to say it won’t eventually be broken in bigger ways?

That is the part people struggle with understanding.

Trust is not built overnight, and it is not usually destroyed overnight either. It is built through consistency, honesty, transparency, and feeling emotionally safe with someone. It is built when words and actions align repeatedly over time.

Proverbs 10:9 says,

“Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but whoever takes crooked paths will be found out.”

Integrity creates safety. Deception creates instability.

And once trust is damaged, even in small ways, it changes things.

You begin questioning.
Overthinking.
Analyzing.
Trying to figure out what is real and what is not.

That is exhausting.

No healthy relationship should require you to become a private investigator just to feel secure.

One thing I have learned is this: people who have been hurt by lies sometimes turn around and lie to others themselves. At first, that never made sense to me. If someone knows firsthand how painful deception feels, why would they willingly do it to someone else?

But pain does strange things to people when it goes unhealed.

Sometimes people lie because they are afraid.
Afraid of conflict.
Afraid of disappointing someone.
Afraid of losing control.
Afraid of being fully honest because honesty requires vulnerability and accountability.

Other times, lying becomes a learned survival behavior. Something they picked up long before you ever entered their life. A defense mechanism they justify because facing the truth feels harder than hiding it.

But understanding why someone lies does not make it okay.

Being hurt is not an excuse to hurt others.

Ephesians 4:25 says,

“Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor.”

At some point, every person has to decide whether they are going to heal from their pain or allow that pain to spill into the lives of people who love them.

Pain can either make someone more honest…
or more deceptive.

More accountable…
or more avoidant.

More trustworthy…
or more guarded and self-protective.

The difference is whether they choose healing.

I think when you have experienced broken trust before, you start valuing honesty differently. You stop looking for perfection, but you do start looking for consistency. You stop wanting empty words and start paying attention to actions.

1 John 3:18 says,

“Let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.”

Because real love is not just spoken. Real love is demonstrated consistently through honesty, character, and integrity.

You realize love without honesty does not create peace — it creates anxiety.

And real love should not constantly leave you questioning what is true.

Trust matters because emotional safety matters.

Without trust, relationships slowly become emotionally exhausting instead of emotionally fulfilling. You cannot truly rest where you constantly feel uncertainty.

The older I get, the more I realize that honesty is one of the purest forms of love and respect you can give someone. Even when the truth is uncomfortable. Even when it is hard. Even when it risks disappointment.

1 Corinthians 13:6 says,

“Love rejoices with the truth.”

Because honesty gives people the ability to make informed decisions with clarity instead of confusion.

And that matters.

Proverbs 12:22 says,

“The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy.”

The older I get, the less impressed I am by charm, words, or promises alone. I pay attention to consistency now. To patterns. To integrity. To whether someone’s actions match what they say.

Because trust is fragile. Once broken, it takes consistency, accountability, and genuine change to rebuild it.

But one thing I know for sure is this:
I no longer want relationships that require constant questioning, confusion, or emotional investigation.

Peace exists where honesty lives.

And trust may be fragile, but discernment is a gift.

God will often show us what our heart is trying to overlook if we are willing to pay attention. Discernment allows us to recognize patterns, inconsistencies, and warning signs before deeper damage is done. It protects our peace, our emotional well-being, and sometimes even our future.

So pay attention to patterns, not just promises.

Because peace will never grow where honesty does not exist.

-Wendy

As I look around my house while packing to move, I’m surrounded by so many precious memories from the last five years. I didn’t think I would get emotional—but here I am, tears streaming down my face.

Not because I’m sad… but because I can’t quite put into words what I’m feeling.

There are so many mixed emotions.

This isn’t my first time moving—in fact, I’ve moved more times than I can count. But this place… this place is different. It holds so much meaning. It’s the home where my last two children lived with me. It’s what my grandbabies know as “my house.” It’s where I finally found peace in my life with the Lord.

And that kind of peace changes everything.

I am excited about the next chapter of my life. I don’t know what it will bring—but that’s the beauty of it. I’m choosing to let God write the rest of my story. Because, honestly, when I try to write it myself, it always seems to fall apart one way or another.

God has never left me—not once. But He has allowed me to make my own choices. And through those choices, I’ve learned many lessons… often the hard way.

But even in the pain, there was purpose.

Because every time I found myself broken, it brought me to my knees before Jesus. And in those moments, I was reminded exactly where my help comes from.

“I lift up my eyes to the mountains—where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.” — Psalm 121:1–2

I truly believe God has something better for me than anything I could ever imagine. So this time, I’m choosing to wait on Him—because I don’t think my heart can handle breaking again.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” — Jeremiah 29:11

Right now, I’m stepping out in complete faith.

I haven’t even sold my house yet—but I’m moving anyway. I’m moving closer to my family, my work, my friends, and my church.

“For we live by faith, not by sight.” — 2 Corinthians 5:7

I’ve been attending this church for about six months now. Some coworkers invited me, and I’m so grateful they did. I go alone every Sunday—and honestly, I’ve only missed a couple of Sunday nights and Wednesday nights.

What I’ve found there is something special.

I’ve met incredible people who check on me, who notice when something feels off, and who genuinely care. They will never fully know how much that means to me.

More than that, I’ve been in God’s Word every single day—studying, learning, and growing. And when I tell you it has brought me clarity and discernment, I truly mean it.

It’s like when I don’t know what to do, there’s this quiet voice inside me guiding me.

I call those “God winks.”

The Holy Spirit.

“But when He, the Spirit of truth, comes, He will guide you into all the truth…” — John 16:13

But we have to be willing to hear it. We have to prepare our hearts daily—not just when life gets hard.

Think about it—would you want your children to only talk to you when they needed something or were in trouble?

God doesn’t want that kind of relationship with us either.

“Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you…” — James 4:8

Being a “good person” isn’t the goal.

Faithfulness is.

To me, being faithful means stepping out of my comfort zone and following where the Holy Spirit leads—even when it doesn’t make sense.

Last Sunday, during praise and worship, I felt that nudge. Before I even realized what I was doing, I was walking to the altar.

I was alone. I only knew a few people there. And if it had been up to me, I probably wouldn’t have done it out of fear.

But it wasn’t just me.

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” — 2 Timothy 1:7

And that moment reminded me of something powerful—

We can block our own blessings by living in fear.

We stay in what’s familiar. We choose comfort. We avoid risk because we don’t want to get hurt again. But in doing that, we try to control our own lives instead of trusting God completely.

I’ve lived that way.

For years.

But when I finally recognized it, everything began to change.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” — Proverbs 3:5–6

I’m still a work in progress. There are days I can almost hear the Holy Spirit whisper, “Stop trying to control it.”

And I’m learning to listen.

“Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for Him…” — Psalm 37:7

I’m so thankful for how far I’ve come in my walk with the Lord. But even more than that—I’m excited about where I’m going.

I’m ready.

“Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal…” — Philippians 3:13–14

Closing Prayer

Heavenly Father,

Thank You for every season—both the ones I understand and the ones I don’t. Thank You for the memories held within these walls and for the peace You gave me here. As I step into a new chapter, I trust that You are already there, preparing the way before me.

Lord, help me to fully surrender my plans, my fears, and my need for control. Teach me to walk by faith and not by sight, even when the path feels uncertain. When I am tempted to go back to what is comfortable, remind me of the growth that comes from trusting You completely.

Strengthen my heart so it no longer fears what could go wrong, but instead rests in the truth of who You are. When I feel weak, be my strength. When I feel unsure, be my clarity. And when I feel alone, remind me that You have never left my side.

Holy Spirit, continue to guide me. Help me to hear Your voice clearly and to obey without hesitation. Keep my heart aligned with Your will, and let my life reflect Your love in everything I do.

Father, I place my future in Your hands. I trust that Your plans are greater than anything I could imagine. Lead me, grow me, and use me for Your purpose.

In Jesus’ name, Amen

Sometimes faith looks like letting go of what we love…and trusting God with what comes next. 

—Wendy 

Scripture Focus:
“Forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal…”
— Philippians 3:13–14

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Introduction

So many people are going through things we have no clue about. Truthfully, it has always been that way. But the older I get—and the closer I grow in my relationship with Jesus—the more clearly I see it.

Maybe it’s because of the life I’ve lived and the experiences that have shaped me. Or maybe it’s simply wisdom that comes with time. Either way, my perspective has changed.

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Reflection Over Dwelling

I don’t look back on my past to dwell on it. I look back to reflect.

I reflect on how far I’ve come…
How much I’ve grown…
Where I still need growth…
And the wisdom I now carry because of everything I’ve been through.

Self-reflection has become a regular part of my life. Growth doesn’t stop—and neither should we.

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God Showed Up Every Time

I’m not perfect—and I don’t claim to be. But I do know this:

When my world was falling apart…
When I felt like I couldn’t go on…
God always showed up.

He made a way.
He gave me strength.
He calmed my heart and my mind.
He provided everything I needed—even when I had no idea how it would happen.

He placed people in my life at just the right moments—sometimes for them to help me, and sometimes for me to help them.

And more often than not, when I chose to serve others out of love, Jesus used those moments to teach me something about myself—lessons that were invaluable.

He never fails us.

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Faith Requires Movement

But faith requires something from us too.

We have to take steps forward—even when we’re scared.

God doesn’t leave us.
We are the ones who drift away.

And the beautiful part?
He always welcomes us back with open arms.

If we live in fear, we are unknowingly questioning God’s ability to make a way. That isn’t faith—that’s trying to take control ourselves.

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It Won’t Always Happen Your Way

Is it easy? Absolutely not.
Is it worth it? More than you will ever know.

I’ve taken many steps while still feeling afraid. But I chose to trust God anyway—and I’ve never been disappointed.

That doesn’t mean everything happens overnight.
It doesn’t mean it happens the way we want.
And it definitely doesn’t mean it happens in our timing.

Those were hard lessons for me.

But when you quiet yourself, listen to that still, small voice, and truly seek His understanding, He begins to teach you things that change how you see life.

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The Power of Unanswered Prayers

I’ve learned to be thankful for unanswered prayers.

I remind myself of them often—because they bring everything back into perspective.

Sometimes what we thought we needed…
Was never what God had planned for us.

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The Waiting Season

Right now, I’m in a waiting season.

And while that isn’t always easy, I trust that God is working—even when I can’t see it.

I have a lot of love to give and a big heart. I believe God is preparing that love for someone who will truly appreciate it and reciprocate it.

I believe He is preparing someone for me.

Life isn’t meant to be lived alone.
And God doesn’t fail.

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Trusting What’s Ahead

So I trust that what He has for me is still ahead.

And when it comes… I’ll know. Without a doubt.

Over the years, God has given me patience—because I tried doing life my way for a long time, and I was never truly fulfilled.

Now I understand:

God sees faithfulness.
And He doesn’t overlook it.

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Conclusion

So I’ll keep chasing after Him.
I’ll keep trusting Him—with everything in me.

Because He has never failed me yet…
And He never will.

—Wendy

Introduction

What does personal alignment mean to you?

For me, it has always been about being on the right path—doing what I am meant to do—even when I wasn’t entirely sure what that looked like. Deep down, I’ve always sensed there was more to life… a purpose waiting to be discovered.

But here’s a question worth asking:
Does everyone find their true purpose, or only those who actively seek it? And if we don’t seek it—do we end up settling for whatever life hands us?

What Is Personal Alignment?

Personal alignment is the state where our thoughts, emotions, actions, and values are in harmony.

From a biblical perspective, alignment goes even deeper. It means conforming our thoughts, actions, and will to God’s—shifting from our own desires to His divine purpose. It’s not a one-time decision, but an ongoing transformation.

Romans 12:2 reminds us:

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

Alignment begins in the mind. When our thinking changes, our direction changes.

The Process of Alignment

Let’s be honest—alignment isn’t easy.

If it were, everyone would be walking in peace and purpose.

Instead, the journey often comes with:

• Loss
• Heartache
• Discipline
• Letting go
• Consistency

It requires intentional choices.

We begin by:

• Identifying our values
• Practicing self-reflection
• Setting healthy boundaries
• Taking aligned, intentional action

And sometimes, the hardest truth to accept is this:
we can be our own biggest obstacle.

A Choice We Must Make

Alignment is not automatic—it’s a decision.

Joshua 24:15 says:

“But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve… But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”

Every day, we choose:

• God’s way or our way
• Trust or control
• Faith or fear

Letting Go of Control

I’ll be honest—I’ve spent a lot of time trying to control every aspect of my life.

Control felt like safety.
Like protection from fear, anxiety, and pain.

But the truth is:
Life will always include moments of uncertainty.

The energy we spend trying to prevent discomfort could instead be used to seek God—where peace, clarity, and direction are already available.

This is something I’m still working on.

Building a Daily Connection with God

What if we started our day differently?

Instead of reaching for our phones or turning on the TV…
we reached for God first.

• Sitting in His presence
• Reading His Word
• Talking to Him in prayer

Building a habit takes time—anywhere from a couple of weeks to a couple of months. It requires discipline, but also grace.

Miss a day? Start again tomorrow.

Eventually, it becomes something you don’t want to live without.

Staying Connected to the Source

We often search everywhere for answers, not realizing we already have access to the greatest source of guidance:
God’s Word and the Holy Spirit.

John 15:5 reminds us:

“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.”

When we stay connected to Him:

• We gain clarity
• We produce fruit
• We walk in purpose

Without Him, we struggle to find direction.

Conclusion: The Invitation to Align

Personal alignment is a journey—not a destination.

It’s choosing daily to:

• Renew your mind
• Surrender control
• Seek God first
• Walk in obedience

It won’t always be easy—but it will always be worth it.

So today, consider this your invitation:

Step into alignment.
Seek His guidance.
Trust His plan.

Because the life He has for you is greater than anything you could create on your own.

—Wendy

“Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?” —Corinthians 6:14

There are connections in life that feel right emotionally…but don’t align spiritually.

You can laugh together, talk for hours, and even feel a deep bond—yet something inside you feels off.

Not because the person is bad. Not because you don’t care. But because you are not walking in the same direction. And that’s what this scripture speaks to.

🔍What Does “Unequally Yoked” Mean?

A yoke connects two animals so they can move together.

If one is stronger, faster, or headed on a different direction, the journey becomes strained.

In the same way, when you are joined closely with someone who doesn’t share your faith or values:

• You’ll eventually pull against each other
• One will feel held back
• The other may be pressured to change

What starts as connection can slowly turn into confusion, compromise, or exhaustion.

⚖️The Deeper Contrast

This verse gives two powerful comparisons:

• Righteousness vs. lawlessness
• Light vs. darkness

It’s not just about differences—it’s about opposite foundations.

When your life is centered on God and theirs is not, your decisions, priorities, and convictions will not match.

And over time, that gap becomes possible to ignore.

❤️It’s Not About Rejection

This verse is often misunderstood.

God is not telling you to:

• Judge people
• Avoid people
• Think you’re better than others

He’s teaching you discernment:

You can:

• Love people
• Be kind to people
• Support people

Without being deeply tied to them on a war it effects your walk with Him.

🧠The Hard Truth

Sometimes we try to make it work because:

• We see potential
• We feel attached
• We don’t want to let go

But alignment is not built on potential, it’s built on shared direction.

You cannot carry a relationship where:

• You’re chasing God
• And they’re not

Eventually, you’ll have to choose:

👉Compromise your walk

or

👉Release what isn’t aligned

🕊️A Personal Reflection

There are moments when God gently reveals:

“This isn’t it.”

And it doesn’t always come with chaos or conflict—sometimes it comes with quiet conviction.

That feeling in your spirit?

That hesitation you can’t explain?

That’s not confusion.

Thats discernment.

🙏Reflection Questions

• Are my relationships aligned with my faith and values?
• Am I trying to force something God is asking me to release?
• Is this connection bringing me closer to God…..or pulling me away?

💬Encouragement

Letting go of someone you care about is never easy.

But being unequally yoked will cost you more than separation ever will.

God doesn’t remove people to hurt you—

He does it to protect your purpose.

What he has for you will be

• Aligned
• Peaceful
• Rooted in Him

You won’t have to force it.

🙏Closing Prayer

Lord,

Thank You for Your wisdom and truth.

Help me to have discernment in my relationships.

Give me the strength to walk away from anything that is not aligned with You, even when it’s hard.

Guard my heart, my purpose, and my walk with You.

Teach me to trust that what You remove, You will replace with something greater and aligned with Your will.

In Jesus’ name,

Amen.

–Wendy